I sit and hear a little baby crying in the distance of our suburban street....the cry goes on and on. I feel saddened as I listen thinking of the tiny little person calling out to their Mumma for comfort and love.....but the continued crying goes unsupported.
 
Could this be another family who have embraced the 'controlled crying' or 'cry it out' method of training their tiny baby to sleep through the night?

How is it that this practise is considered 'normal' by some families? 

Natural and nurturing to me is to keep your baby close, to breastfeed on demand and to trust their needs. Yet I am in minority when I speak of co-sleeping and holding my bubba close....this is interesting considering for thousands of years children slept alongside their parents as  a normal  way of life and in a lot of cultures it still is. Parents like us believe that our children deserve our company and loving comfort at night as well as during the day.  
 
Yet the majority of the Western world has seemed to like the idea of an artifical, mistrusting and controlling approach to parenting.

Artifical as in cage-like cots for their babies in a separate room. Mistrusting of a child's basic needs for love, comfort and touch.
Controlling a child to suit their own needs, for example training a baby to sleep through the night, when it is not natural for them to do so.

How is it that we are the only mammal that forces our tiny young to sleep away from us?  Can you imagine how it feels to be so connected to a Mumma, then all of a sudden isolated and alone?

I followed my own instinctive heart to love, protect and nurture my babies in the most natural way.......sleeping alongside and breastfeeding without getting out of bed. I was also nurtured by the extra sleep I received, which enabled me to be more patient and loving during the day instead of sleep-deprived and grumpy.

Do we really want to lessen the emotional bond between parent and child? Co-sleeping is nurturing and natural, I love seeing my beautiful boys eyes open up in the morning to welcome the new day. To ME co-sleeping is normal, I feel sad for children who are bought up in homes where it is not.

Arthur Schopenhauer stated 200 years ago....' All truth goes through three stages. First it is ridiculed. Then it is violently opposed. Finally, it is accepted as self-evident'. 

So even though we are a minority now and ridiculed by main-stream society.....we have our own truth and that is to parent with our hearts, not by being influenced by an opinionated sheep-like society.

kJ xx 
Johanna
3/10/2012

Yes that is true about judgement, but in the spirit of this , whatever the reason the heart was going out, it's only natural when you are governed by love, especially a mother's love.
Thankyou for that beautiful read, so glad l'm not the only one, l too felt strongly about the raising my little one as such and l can say we enjoyed it so so much. He is 15 now, he is a great kid but it has been a struggle at times at school because he dislikes meaness not that he gets bullied, but around him that he is a witness of including teachers.During the past few years l have got caught up in the western ways a bit and probably expected too much of my boy in these older years with working longer hrs etc. In which l am now reducing and get back to the naturalness of being a mum and bringing that nurturing back into our home...The penny dropped when l had an unplanned rdo and well had a day of running errands locally and cooking dinner from a recipe (we had entrée too) We chatted when he come home from school, ate at a decent time and watched a bit of telly together , went off to bed but the mood and dynamic was beautiful the way it should be. I felt the full essence of being a mother in which l hadn't felt in a loooong time. It was precious as well priceless. I mean really what else is the point?
Thankyou

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3/10/2012

Thanks for your comments. The judgement was not intended and yes it is only natural when you are a loving nurturing soul to feel saddened to hear a crying baby or child no matter what the circumstances.
Our children are only young and with us for such a short time in their lives and I believe it is of the utmost importance to devote as much time as possible doing those basic things with our children. Cooking and sharing a meal together, playing a board game, throwing a footy, watching a movie, reading books; all of these things show a child that they are important and that they are worth your time and energy. Exactly, what else is the point? Life is too short for regrets, I love enjoying precious moments with my children.
Kathy

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